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After a friend was thrown off by seemingly benign "kudos" on Big Brother Sex Scenesher recent bike ride post on Strava, I saw how the popular workout tracking tool has become more than a place to post personal fitness achievements. 

The Strava equivalent of a "like," the kudos showed her that a toxic relationship she was trying to move on from was still privy to her workout posts — in all their minute detail. She was still connected with him on the app, so all her activity down to her elevation gain were posted on Strava and available to him.

Then two friends from my running group took out their phones after a recent run and suggested we all follow each other. "On what?" I asked, knowing full well what they were about to say. Both admitted that the only social media they use consistently is Strava, exchanging Instagram stories for running times and bike-ride selfies.

Strava has become another social network, and we need to treat it as such, especially with our relationships, romantic or otherwise. The app collects a trove of information (it's in the top 10 of most data intensive appsout there), which if shared with followers or in a public feed, can be worrisome. Location data stands out as the most fraught feature, especially after connecting with new people who are essentially strangers from a first or blind date.

After following someone during a tipsy night out, you might not realize you need to adjust your settings, which you can do at any time. Several privacy and safety features let users control who sees what and what those users see. You pre-select who you want to see your personal information, but some aggregated location datais opt-out only. 

Here are three settings to go through on your app to protect yourself, especially after adding people you don't know well. 

1. Profile Privacy Controls: Under "Privacy Controls" you can decide who sees your activities: "Everyone," "Followers," or "Only You." Just because you changed your default doesn't mean that your previously open-to-the-public info is now hidden. To be thorough, you can go back through past activity and delete or change posts. There are 96 million Strava users. Consider that when posting to "Everyone."

2. Edit Map Visibility:To keep start and end locations private, you can remove those marked portions of your workout. Or you can plug in an address and always block any nearby map activity. Then there's the option to hide the entire map, so other information like photos, distance covered, workout stats, heart rate, and other details are the only parts of the post. You can change the default on this from "Privacy Controls" and go to "Edit Map Visibility." You can always go back and edit the map on individual workouts.

3. Strava Beacon:This feature is more useful if you're going on a date or meeting up for a workout with a new person (running/walking/hiking and other outdoor datesare definitely a thing, especially during the pandemic). You can share your live location to "trusted contacts," so maybe a roommate or family member, who can follow along or check in. 

While many of my fitness-focused friends use Strava (disclosure, I do not use the Strava app) for inspiration, to track progress, and to support friends, it comes with a lot of the same baggageof "traditional" social media like Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok. 

Location tracking is also a problem with Instagram photos, and Snapchat has a map feature that relies on sharing where you are at that moment. You may be connecting with a recent date on Instagram or Snapchat and not think through the privacy implications, either. The boundary between creepy, cute, and convenient gets blurred quicklyacross all social media and connected devices that relay location data. Strava is just the latest addition, hiding behind the guise of a workout tracker.

A colleague's friend reconnected with an old high school friend through Strava, and realized how much personal info they were giving to someone they hadn't seen in years. Another colleague had a friend who was asked out by someone through Strava who noticed she often ran a similar route as her suitor. Creepy or cute? It made her rethink how much she wanted to share on the public feed. 

Beyond map tracking and unintentionally exposing your personal details, that same social pressure, FOMO-induced depression, self-image disillusionment, along with other downsides of social mediaare creeping into apps like Strava. 

One Strava-using friend realized she could see where a former IRL connection was working, living, exercising, and, more importantly, whohe was working out with. On the flip side he could see everything about her workouts and where they were happening. It was an eye-opening moment, emotionally and privacy-wise.

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